We’ve all been through tough times; whether they’re related to our careers or even our personal lives. We commonly hear people giving advice with things like, “You just have to stay positive….” or “Keep a positive attitude…”. When all you really hear is “Blah blah blah”. Sometimes when we hear this advice, all we want to do is tell them to go pound sand.

I understand these feelings because I’ve been there too. There are days when I just don’t want to be positive, or I don’t feel like I even can. I had a group client, Rachel, say this to me recently: “I know I’m supposed to be positive but some days I just can’t. I feel like I’m failing because I’m not able to be positive all the time.”

Here is the deal, it’s not realistic to be positive all the time. You don’t have to be positive all the time, nor should you expect it. Give yourself a break! I listened to a Law of Attraction CD recently, where they said to think of your attitude as a spectrum. On one end of the spectrum is negativity and the other is extreme positivity. Just try to keep moving towards positivity, and don’t beat yourself up if you can’t get there every day. It’s not about perfection, it’s about self-management and doing the best you can.